Monday, July 2, 2012

Katie Holmes

When I first heard the devastating news this morning that Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are breaking up, I immediately crafted an emailed to a friend of mine saying, “looks like the contract is up!” Thinking myself extremely clever, I sent off the note and then signed on to Facebook only to find that everyone else in the world had the same insightful reaction that I had, even down to a headline on our sister site, Crushable.

So, OK. I’m not the only one in the world who recognizes the existence of relationship contracts between celebrities. But I think we can all agree that Katie Homes signed herself up for something pretty extreme all those years ago. First of all, she got on board for five-plus years of marriage to Tom Cruise. Also, she said yes to becoming a Scientologist. But maybe worst of all, she essentially gave up defining herself as anything other than Tom Cruise’s wife.

During the past nearly six years,  Katie Holmes has done a smattering of movies, but while some of her former “Dawson’s Creek” co-stars have gone on to bigger and better things — Michelle Williams is a bona fide star, and James Van Der Beek certainly seems to be in the midst of a comeback — the brunette, doe-eyed actress’ career has kind of fallen by the wayside. One wonders if she knew exactly what she was sacrificing in favor of what I imagine is an obscene amount of money and comfort for the rest of her and her daughter’s life (which, to be fair, sounds awfully tempting).

That said, I think that Holmes is a perfect candidate for a massive divorce party. I always think of divorce parties as reclaiming your sense of self in the face of losing a huge part of what has been your identity for a number of years. It’s something that can happen very easily — speaking as someone who is getting out of a long-term relationship right now, I am only beginning to understand the parts of myself that melded with my ex in ways that I didn’t even realize were happening.
So, that said, do I kind of want Katie Holmes to have a big fucking awesome divorce party so that I can live vicariously through her? Of course I do. But she deserves it anyway. Get out there and party, Katie.

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are divorcing after five years of marriage."This is a personal and private matter for Katie and her family," Holmes' attorney Jonathan Wolfe told People. "Katie's primary concern remains, as it always has been, her daughter's best interest."

The couple, who married in November 2006 in a lavish Italian ceremony, are parents to daughter Suri, 6.According to TMZ, Holmes is the one who filed for divorce, citing "irreconcilable differences," and is asking for sole legal and primary residential custody of Suri. Their sources add that Cruise apparently did not see the divorce coming.

Cruise's rep issued a statement Friday afternoon (via Gossip Cop): “Kate has filed for divorce and Tom is deeply saddened and is concentrating on his three children. Please allow them their privacy.”
Cruise and Holmes started dating in 2005 and were very public with their relationship. They became engaged in Paris, and Cruise couldn't contain his excitement.

"Yes, I proposed to her. ... It was early this morning at the Eiffel Tower, so I haven't slept at all," Cruise told People at the time, adding, "Today is a magnificent day for me, I'm engaged to a magnificent woman."Holmes was equally taken with Cruise and talked about him with W magazine in its August 2005 issue.

“I've found the man of my dreams,” Holmes said. “From the moment I met him, it just felt like I'd known him forever. I was blown away. He's the most incredible man. He's so generous and kind, and he helps so many people, and, um, he makes me laugh like I've never laughed, and he's a great friend."

Cruise, who stars in "Rock of Ages," recently spoke about katie holmes in Playboy, saying: "She is an extraordinary person, and if you spent five minutes with her, you’d see it. Everything she does, she does with this beautiful creativity. She’s funny and charming, and when she walks into the room, I just feel better. I’m a romantic. I like doing things like creating romantic dinners, and she enjoys that."

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